By: Nora, Starfish Project | Photographer

This year, thanks to the generosity of our amazing donors, we hosted a Starfish Project leadership retreat—a time to reflect, celebrate, and witness the powerful growth of survivor leaders like Nora. Through laughter, tears, and unforgettable moments, we were reminded just how far hope can take us. Here is Nora’s beautiful reflection.

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This retreat wasn’t just the end of a chapter—it felt more like a gentle, powerful rebirth. It was like a mirror, showing me how far I’ve come, and like a light, pointing me toward what’s next.

At the opening session, when our COO, Joanna, shared the income numbers from the past few years, I saw more than just data. I saw late nights with the lights still on, proposals rewritten over and over, and the courage to keep going after setbacks. Behind those cold numbers were our sweat, passion, and perseverance. In that moment, I felt so proud of our team—we didn’t let challenges stop us. Instead, we walked forward step by step, with courage and grit.

Then Jenny spoke, and I felt tears welling up. She took us back through the journey of Starfish Project—the hardships, the doubts, the perseverance, and the breakthroughs. It all came together in one powerful phrase: “Every woman deserves to be valued.” She reminded us of our values—growth, living out love, excellence, celebrating people, and authentic relationships. These aren’t just slogans; they’re what we live every day. In my heart, I whispered, “This is the road I want to keep walking.”

When the next-generation survivor leaders were interviewed, I found myself laughing and reflecting. I said I’d bring a knife and fire if I were stranded on an island—very practical, right? But those two things also show what I believe about leadership: a clear purpose (sharp like a knife) and lasting passion (warm like fire). When asked about my leadership secret, I immediately said, “The power of listening.” Over the years, I’ve learned that leading isn’t about giving orders from above—it’s about truly hearing people’s voices and needs. To my younger self, I’d say, “Don’t be afraid to fall—be patient. That’s how you grow.” And to me now, “Keep trusting yourself. You’re on the right path.”

The “Get to Know You” game, led by the Branch Director, Rebekah, brought so much laughter and warmth. We opened up to each other like playful kids—our hearts grew closer.

One of the most moving moments was Shelby’s “Nature Walk and Inner Journey.” I chose the theme of “birds,” which for me symbolize freedom, lightness, and trust. When she asked if we’d felt goodness and care lately, my heart stirred deeply. Through ordinary days, tough seasons, and moments of being misunderstood, I realized—I was not alone.

In my personal sharing, I reflected on three things:

• Failure is part of success. What feels like failure often leads us to something better.
  
  
• Our work matters. I remembered a management class from Naffy that compared our work to an iceberg. What seems small on the surface is part of something powerful below—work that can change lives.
  
  
• Gratitude is everything. Sunshine or storm, every moment is nourishment from God to help us grow.
  
  

Shekina’s session on “Cultural Dimensions” opened my eyes, too. I saw how Starfish truly honors every culture, background, and identity. Everyone has a chance to grow, to be seen, to be valued. Especially when it comes to power—unlike many companies, our leaders walk with us, not above us. They lay down titles and walk into our lives like family. This culture of love is what I treasure most.

The ONE STARFISH activity was unforgettable! Our headquarters team brought props for a fashion runway show, and each team blew me away with their creativity and light. Watching everyone shine reminded me: we all carry something beautiful and unique.

And that night, dancing around the bonfire—I felt like a child again. I forgot my title, forgot my stress, and remembered only this: we are friends, we are family, we trust and love one another. The fire crackled, the laughter echoed, and I never want to forget that night.

We also went hiking to find the 12 zodiac symbols. Honestly, I was slower than the others because I haven’t exercised much. But no one rushed me or made me feel behind. They slowed down, cheered me on, and stayed with me. I felt understood, accepted, and cared for. Tears streamed down my face. That’s what a team is. That’s what family looks like.

Throughout the retreat, I laughed a lot—and cried a lot. Every tear helped me let go of the past. Every smile reminded me I’m deeply loved and not alone.

Thank you for everything. Thank you, Starfish Project. And thank you to every one of you who’s walked this road with me.

We may not walk fast, but we walk together—always moving forward.

May this truth and love carry me into the next chapter. ❤️

-Nora